Man left devastated after joint diet with wife ends in divorce - because he loses weight and she doesn't

Man left devastated after joint diet with wife ends in divorce - because he loses weight and she doesn't
Man left devastated after joint diet with wife ends in divorce - because he loses weight and she doesn't

For those who go about it in a healthy way, losing weight can be a huge positive.

In some cases, life-changing.

 

So much so, there's no shortage of success stories out there, shared by people proud of what they've achieved and the impact it's had on their life.

But sadly this isn't always the case.

After agreeing to go on a much-needed joint weight loss regime with his wife, one man has since seen his marriage break down over his transformation.

Initially the couple had embarked on a weight-loss journey together (Image: Getty)

The decision to lose weight came after the couple took stock of their lives and realised they were in a rut.

"We were both approaching 300lbs (136 kilos). As a couple we could barely walk the few steps from our car to our office," the husband explained on Reddit .

"We didn't vacation, we didn't go for walks, we didn't do anything but stare at our phones when we went out to eat.

"We ate takeout three meals a day and were pretty miserable.

"Our sex life was at first uncomfortable, and then essentially non-existent."

Their sex life had ground to a halt and they hadn't enjoyed a holiday together in years (Image: Getty)

After deciding to make some important changes, the husband came up with a simple routine, and persevered with it.

Soon he began to see the results.

"I just walked, downloaded a calorie counting app and made sure I never exceeded my daily calorie limit," he explained.

"Well slowly but surely, my weight started to come off.

However, his wife struggled.

"My wife, on the other hand, quit her gym and trainer after about a week."

"I lost about 10lbs (4.5 kgs) a month and after four months, it really began to show. It was at this point that she became intensely hostile towards me."

The husband has seen results (Image: GETTY)

"She started making me sleep in the guest bed (she claimed it was because of my snoring ). We communicated through email and texts and even those were hostile."

Then the cryptic social media updates started - which the husband believes were directed at him.

"She started posting things on Facebook about 'losing the genetic lottery' when it came to weight and it was best that she just learn to love who she was.

"A favourite quote that became her Facebook backdrop was 'change your world, not your body.'

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She started to post cryptic messages on Facebook (Image: iStockphoto)

"When she was home she watched Netflix in her living room and we'd only talk to make Uber Eats plans."

A recent text from his wife now shows how deeply his weight loss has affected her.

"She said: 'I'm sorry to do this to you, but I am deeply unattracted to both your new body and your new attitude.

"I never thought you would remind me of my bullies but that's exactly what you've become. I'm contacting a divorce lawyer on Monday morning."

Despite the crisis-levels their marriage has reached, the husband is keen to win her back and get things back on track with her.

But others have cautioned him to let her go, pointing out this obviously goes a lot deeper than weight loss.

"I'm really surprised by your wife in choosing to leave before communicating how serious she felt about ending the relationship," one response read.

"That's hugely unfair to you, you deserve a chance to talk to her. But if she is choosing to end a 12 year marriage over text, then I don’t think she has much respect for you in the first place."

"This is not on you," someone else reassured him.

"This is on your wife. She is incredibly insecure. She wanted an easy fix to weight loss but as you learnt through months of hard work, that is not a thing.

"I'm sorry your marriage is ending but please know that you did nothing wrong."